What do people think when they see someone slamming the door on someone’s face, interrupting someone off in the middle of a sentence, shout across the room, use foul language, eat with their mouth open, give orders instead of saying "please" and "thank you"… and the list goes on. They probably think that "He lacks in manners" or “What a loser." (Oops!)
It is essential to know that mere knowing where to place your fork and knife while dining is not sufficient to justify that you incorporate good manners. Good manners refer to your understanding of social skills, communication skills, and demonstrating behaviour that does not embarrass you and does not cause others to feel uncomfortable.
Good or bad manners say volumes about you and your upbringing. They are the shadows of the virtues you possess. They indicate whether you are dependable, reliable, and selfless. People who are rude, inconsistent, or selfish suffer severe consequences.
Manners indeed count when you are going for a business deal, interviewing for a job, or meeting someone significant for the first time. However, they also count even when there is no special occasion. Your friends and colleagues may not point you out, but they would surely notice and judge you and make a perception of you. You would know that if you could read their minds.
Most people know how to put on the best foot forward in a particular situation, but the key is to behave perfectly in all circumstances. Why wait for someone to notice us and remind us. It should be a conscious and continuous effort so that it infuses in our blood and becomes our habit.
Manners need to be displayed in all spheres of life. It should begin with our getting up early in the morning till going off to sleep at night.
Usually, we wear smart, walk smart but forget to behave smart and sophisticated. We can begin with using the three powerful magical words; 'Sorry', 'Thank you’ and 'Please' as they make, build and maintain relationships, and solve the hardest of the problems.
Remember, good manners are cost-effective. They promote a better corporate culture. They not only increase the quality of life at the workplace but also embellish the institution's image. In other words, it is an investment in respect.
So, do mind your P's and Q's, thereby etching your etiquette as they are essential for building your brand.
Kamini S Haldhar
HOD English
The Mann School
